Two decades ago, Amanda (Mandy) Barnes and her husband Chris were like many Sydney professionals, overworked, time-poor and craving a change of pace. She was a clinical psychologist, he was a lawyer, and the pair were juggling long hours in the city with raising a young family.

But then came the ‘tree change’ moment.

“We wanted to move out of Sydney and try to get away from long work hours, to prioritise family,” Mandy says. “It felt like the right time while I was on maternity leave and the kids were little.”

That decision took them to Bargo, a rural town an hour south-west of Sydney, where they stumbled across Kalinya Estate. At first sight, they were hooked.

“The gardens felt loved. The original owners were so kind and had clearly poured their hearts into the property. It felt like the right place to build something new and big enough for the whole extended family to visit too.”

What they didn’t know back then was that their family move would spark a whole new career. One that would blend Mandy’s background in psychology with hospitality, design, and community building.

The Homestead at Kalinya Estate has been lovingly restored to its former glory

From practice rooms to party rooms

Originally, Mandy’s plan was to set up a psychology practice on-site. But life, as it tends to, had other ideas.

Her business partner and close friend tragically passed away in a car accident, and with two small children at home, Mandy pivoted. Instead of returning to city work, she turned Kalinya into a holiday accommodation business. It was a stopgap at first, but one that soon took on a life of its own.

The estate, once a modest country bed-and-breakfast, slowly evolved into something extraordinary. Today, Kalinya hosts everything from weddings and corporate retreats to big family reunions and special events. With its pool, sauna, cinema, squash courts, sprawling gardens, and even a giant swing designed for group selfies, it’s the kind of place that makes kids beg their parents not to leave.

“It’s always about bringing people together,” Mandy says. “Every feature we add has to be fun, beautiful and help create memories.”

Anyone for tennis? Image supplied.

Psychology at the heart of hospitality

Mandy admits she never really left psychology behind. She just found a different way to use it.

“I think because of my training, I’m really aware of people’s emotional and relational needs. For me, hospitality isn’t about upselling or squeezing every dollar. It’s about restoring people, giving them rest, and creating lasting memories.”

That focus on wellbeing and connection shows up everywhere at Kalinya. The estate is designed so guests naturally gravitate towards one another. Whether that’s around a long table, on the oversized swing, or while watching a film in the private cinema. Even the layout of the buildings encourages guests to move between indoors and out, feeling more connected to the gardens, fresh air and each other.

“Luxury isn’t luxury unless it’s comfortable,” Mandy says, quoting Coco Chanel. “For us, luxury is beauty, comfort, connection with the environment, and most importantly, being surrounded by those you love.”

Now that’s a hang out! Image supplied

The not-so-glamorous side of a luxury estate

Of course, building a world-class estate hasn’t been all roses. The restoration process threw up countless “oh shivers” moments, as Mandy calls them.

Take the old French gazebo, for example. Its roof palings had rotted through, and replacement parts simply didn’t exist. So, she roped in a local metalworking company to handcraft curved sections and weld the dome back together. The finial on top had to be lowered with ropes, patched, painted and then craned back into place.

“It was a massive labour of love, even just for that one piece of history,” she smiles.

Then there were the Covid years, when tourism ground to a halt overnight. Kalinya honoured every booking and kept pricing steady, even though it meant a serious financial hit.

“We felt it was the ethical thing to do,” Mandy says. “We didn’t get government handouts, but we wanted to look after our guests. It hurt financially for a long time, but it’s part of who we are.”

Kalinya Estate is a popular destination for weddings. Image supplied.

A community effort

Running Kalinya isn’t something Mandy or Chris could do alone. She’s quick to credit the “super fabulous” team around her.

“This business is way too big for one person. We feel like it’s a community-run place, and hopefully the team feels genuinely loved and cared for. We try to lead by example and create an environment where everyone’s keen to spoil the next guests coming through.”

That philosophy of ‘care first, profit second’ is what makes Kalinya stand out. It’s also what keeps guests coming back, often year after year, and sometimes becoming lifelong friends.

She says some of her proudest moments aren’t awards or accolades (though Kalinya has those too, including recognition for sustainability and inclusivity). Instead, it’s the quiet moments of feedback: the family who books their next stay before even checking out, the parents who tell her their kids don’t want to leave, or the heartfelt “best place we’ve ever been” comment.

“That’s the kind of thing that stays with you,” Mandy says.

Is that checkmate? Image supplied.

Looking back, looking forward

Twenty years on, Mandy sometimes reflects on the sliding doors moment when she and Chris almost moved to New York instead of buying Kalinya. But she’s not one to dwell on “what ifs.”

“I try to mindfully celebrate the choices and the present, rather than looking back or forward too much,” she says.

What’s next for Kalinya? Mandy’s keeping her cards close to her chest. “We do like to surprise and delight,” she grins. “Let’s just say we’ve definitely got cool plans.”

For now, she’s content to keep welcoming families, couples and companies through the gates, offering them a chance to breathe, reconnect, and make memories.

“Every time someone tells me Kalinya is the best place they’ve ever been, or kids beg their parents to stay longer, that’s what makes it worthwhile. That’s what it’s all about.”

Fancy a luxury retreat? Find out more about Kalinya Estate.

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